Yesterday hubby messaged me something quite surprising yet lovely and sweet. I quote:
"I think u r an excellent wife and mother, very matured too"
My first reaction, was like, hmm..did he do something wrong that he feels so guilty about? Or has the fasting finally gotten to his head till he cannot think properly?
Me excellent? Matured? Ha! Honestly, I have never thought of myself as an excellent homemaker. Far from it actually. Firstly, I hardly cook at home, except for that occasional fried egg or maggie noodles. All I know is to eat, heh. Lucky thing my parents are so tolerant of me and loves to cook. Hubby has gotten used to me, and besides, after tasting one of my dishes, I think he is secretly happy that I am not the one cooking for the family. Secondly, housework such as the laundry and cleaning-up is done by my maid. I am actually quite surprised my in-laws still love me even though their daughter-in-law is a lazy bum. I love you too, mak and pak.
Being a working mum also takes away a lot of my time with my kids, and I often wished that we were so rich that I need not go to work and be a tai tai and spend time with my kids. I am also the kind that loves to be pampered and taken care of. Very dependant on hubby and yikes, even on my mummy and daddy. So how to be an 'excellent' mum and wife like dat?
So when hubby fetched me after work, I asked him shyly, WHAT in the world was he thinking to sms me such a message (I so totally don't deserve it)!? He said that over the years, he noticed that I had changed, much for the better. More matured meaning less tantrums (The last time I threw a tantrum was when I was pregnant with Kyra and it had something to do with hubby not calling me. I know, pathetic, right?), more sensible and down-to earth and definitely more responsible. Gee, really?
I used to be demanding and domineering and like things to go my way. Very childish and cried easily just to get attention. Have I really have grown up? Hubby said that instead of going out with my friends and partying, I go home most weekdays nights to take care of my kids and spend my weekends with my family. It's true! I used to party a lot before I got married. Hated to stay in the house because my parents would nag at me constantly.
But now things are different. When it comes to my children, I go all out for them. As soon as I reach home from work, they would pounce on me with their kisses and hugs and I would take over all my motherly duties. Bathe them, feed them, cuddle, comfort and also nag at them when they get out of hand. Partying, you say? Seems like a foreign term to me now.
Also, he said that I am working because of the family. Come on, which 4-member family can survive on just the husband's income? Unless his paycheck has 4 zeros and above of course. I help to pay the bills, the house, maid and also the expenses for the kids, school, parents...you get the picture. There goes my shopping money. And yes, he said I don't do housework or cook, but so what? He did not marry a maid, he married for my personality and he's happy. I am sooo happy too!
I was so enlightened about myself during my chat with hubby. Who would have thought that I am now such an "excellent" and "matured" wife and mother? And I did not say it, my hubby did :)
"I think u r an excellent wife and mother, very matured too"
My first reaction, was like, hmm..did he do something wrong that he feels so guilty about? Or has the fasting finally gotten to his head till he cannot think properly?
Me excellent? Matured? Ha! Honestly, I have never thought of myself as an excellent homemaker. Far from it actually. Firstly, I hardly cook at home, except for that occasional fried egg or maggie noodles. All I know is to eat, heh. Lucky thing my parents are so tolerant of me and loves to cook. Hubby has gotten used to me, and besides, after tasting one of my dishes, I think he is secretly happy that I am not the one cooking for the family. Secondly, housework such as the laundry and cleaning-up is done by my maid. I am actually quite surprised my in-laws still love me even though their daughter-in-law is a lazy bum. I love you too, mak and pak.
Being a working mum also takes away a lot of my time with my kids, and I often wished that we were so rich that I need not go to work and be a tai tai and spend time with my kids. I am also the kind that loves to be pampered and taken care of. Very dependant on hubby and yikes, even on my mummy and daddy. So how to be an 'excellent' mum and wife like dat?
So when hubby fetched me after work, I asked him shyly, WHAT in the world was he thinking to sms me such a message (I so totally don't deserve it)!? He said that over the years, he noticed that I had changed, much for the better. More matured meaning less tantrums (The last time I threw a tantrum was when I was pregnant with Kyra and it had something to do with hubby not calling me. I know, pathetic, right?), more sensible and down-to earth and definitely more responsible. Gee, really?
I used to be demanding and domineering and like things to go my way. Very childish and cried easily just to get attention. Have I really have grown up? Hubby said that instead of going out with my friends and partying, I go home most weekdays nights to take care of my kids and spend my weekends with my family. It's true! I used to party a lot before I got married. Hated to stay in the house because my parents would nag at me constantly.
But now things are different. When it comes to my children, I go all out for them. As soon as I reach home from work, they would pounce on me with their kisses and hugs and I would take over all my motherly duties. Bathe them, feed them, cuddle, comfort and also nag at them when they get out of hand. Partying, you say? Seems like a foreign term to me now.
Also, he said that I am working because of the family. Come on, which 4-member family can survive on just the husband's income? Unless his paycheck has 4 zeros and above of course. I help to pay the bills, the house, maid and also the expenses for the kids, school, parents...you get the picture. There goes my shopping money. And yes, he said I don't do housework or cook, but so what? He did not marry a maid, he married for my personality and he's happy. I am sooo happy too!
I was so enlightened about myself during my chat with hubby. Who would have thought that I am now such an "excellent" and "matured" wife and mother? And I did not say it, my hubby did :)
